In my last blog I shared the scripture below as a prelude to the description of a marriage that was vying for happiness outside the grasp of God. A few days after writing that blog, I found out a dear Christian friend of mine had lost her soul mate of 56 years. She gave me something she had written shortly after his passing and also gave me permission to share it in whatever capacity I wished. So this week I wanted to take a break in my journey to share their journey and the beautiful reflection of Christ love for us.
” Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth its fruit in its season, whose leaf also shall not wither; and whatever he does shall prosper” – Psalms 1: 1-3
As I am writing this after 56 years of a wonderful marriage of commitment, my heart beats with sheer joy, but my spirit within my being thinks of the generation which is not into that commitment of love, honor and obedience (or as I say submission) Sometimes a husband and wife have to submit to the wishes or yearnings of the other. Archie and I had our ups and downs, but we had determined from the beginning that the word divorce would not be in our vocabulary. There is a sweet saying we have on a plaque in our bedroom, “Grow old with me, the best is yet to come” It is true! Even though Archie was on dialysis with health issues the last few years, we worked together to make those days good days. The other days were best days too because he too had helped me make my chemo and radiation days good days. We had a wonderful and blessed life. With Archie’s death I have thought more about my two miscarriages and wonder if Archie is getting acquainted with them. What do you think?
This glorious morning as I sat in my devotional rocking chair, I am looking out of my front door into a beautiful hill scene, thanking God for so much, but there is a deep void. Sometimes the loneliness engulfs me, causing tears to flow, not only down my cheeks, but to the shoulders. After I have had a cleansing cry, in my spirit I seem to hear the still voice of my Heavenly Father say to me, remember my promise I will never leave you or forsake you. Then the engulfing feeling of loneliness seems to dissipate as a warm embracing feeling brings to memory the last words I heard my husband say. Each night before going to sleep, we would hold hands and pray Psalm 1:1-3. We would pray for our family and friends and those who were a part of our working relationships. We would also close with a prayer that God would keep us as the apple of His eye and under the shadow of His wings. Sometimes if it had been a tough day, I would ask Archie “Am I going to be ok?” Archie would say ” Yes, we are going to be Ok” I knew we were.
At the end when they said that Archie would not have much longer with us, I asked the nurse to leave the drip for his blood pressure on and let me have a few minutes with him. I curled up in bed beside him quietly at first. I began quoting Psalm 1:1-3 I could see his mouth moving as if he were praying with me. Afterwards I said, “Archie, will I be OK”? He was very weak, but with a strong voice God allowed me to hear Archie say “Pat you are going to be ok” Just a couple of hours later, with Pastor, family and friends in the waiting room, we quoted scripture as Archie stepped out into the arms of his Savior.
As I sat and read the words my dear friend Pat had written about her final moments with Archie, my eyes welled up with tears as I reflected on this example of the very truth I was attempting to reflect in my last blog. The scripture they had prayed every evening was also the one God had placed on my heart to use in my blog. The example I saw in them as a couple was what I strived for my marriage to become. How I wished I had not allowed divorce to be in my vocabulary yet, how amazing the grace of God is that covers all our sins and restores broken lives to reflect his healing power. It is because of that grace we can still end our story as a couple restored by the power of the blood of Jesus Christ.
I thank God for the privilege of having a peek into the lives of such a strong Godly couple. You know that your light is pure and true when upon the end of your journey here on earth the reflection of your light remains to illuminate the path for others!
“Relish life with the spouse you love, each and every day of your precarious life. Each day is a gift. It’s all you get in exchange for the hard work of staying alive.” Ecclesiastes 9:9 (The Message)