“Love never looks back”. I Corinthians 13:7 (The Message)
One of the greatest gifts God gave us by sacrificing His son on the cross was forgiveness and new beginnings.
“ Anyone united with the Messiah gets a fresh start, is created new. The old life is gone; a new life burgeons! Look at it! All this comes from the God who settled the relationship between us and him, and then called us to settle our relationships with each other.” 2 Corinthians 5:17-18 (The Message)
The blood of Jesus Christ covers our sins completely! It is through the blood of the lamb that we are granted access to the Throne Room! God made a way to have relationship with us and our sinful nature so how can we not show that same love and deep relational desire to our spouse?
“As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.” Psalm 103: 12 (NKJV)
God wants our marriages to reflect His purest love. Just like He requires us to repent of our sins and receive forgiveness, He expects us to confront the sinful nature in our relationships, repent and move forward . This is something God feels very strongly about.
” But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” Matthew 6:15
We need to address and repent of the sins that are damaging our relationships and forgive our spouses. If you do not forgive your spouse then God cannot forgive you. Let that sink in for a moment. You are no better than your spouse so if unforgiveness is what you choose then you have chosen it for yourself as well. Gods word is truth. It does not change and it does not contradict itself.
“Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new!” Isaiah 43: 18 (The Message)
Once we have chosen forgiveness we then have to put it in the past. You cannot move forward if you are constantly looking back. There is nothing that hinders healing more in a marriage than a spouse that continually throws old history into current time. Remember, words have power; they bring life or death into your marriage. Words of past wrongs will never allow for new behaviors to flourish. Love never looks back. Love is alert and aware of the present. How are you going to recognize this new thing God wants to do in your marriage if your focus is still back on the past? Be very conscious of what is taking place in your relationship. You don’t want to miss out on the new thing God is doing!!
“I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has So wondrously reached out for me. Friends, don’t get me wrong; by no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but i’ve Got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward- to Jesus. I’m off and running, and I’m not turning back.” Phillipans 3:12-14 (The Message)
My marriage is in such a better place than in has been in the past. However, just like what Paul said in Phillipians, I do not claim to have it all together. The difference is that I am keeping my eye on Christ and His beckoning for our marriage to move forward. The only time I find myself reflecting on my past, is in the moments where I am recognizing the new thing God has done in me personally and my marriage. I do not dwell on the past mistakes but use them as the confirmation of the renewing of my mind. Then I am energized to run forward leaving my past mistakes in the dust.
Take it from someone who has lived the majority of her marriage looking in the rear view mirror, there is freedom found in letting go of your past and embracing a future that is fresh and new. Leave your past at the foot of the cross where it belongs. God promises to make all things new! We just need to keep our eyes on Him and not on the past.
“Trust in the Lord, and do good; Dwell in the land , and feed on His faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, And he shall bring it to pass” Psalm 37: 3-5 (NKJV)
Our hope is found In Jesus. Nothing is impossible for Him. Delight in the Lord, keep your focus on Him and He will give yo the desires of your heart! There is so much joy to be found in your marriage. Be present and alert. You do not want to miss the new thing God is doing in your marriage.