Complacency: A feeling of smug or uncritical satisfaction with oneself or one’s achievements.

“Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall” 1 Corinthians 10:12

How easy it is to become complacent with our current condition or circumstances. One of the weapons of destruction the enemy often uses is complacency.  If we are content with our current condition then we will have no motivation to make it better. Lets face it, the easy way out of a situation is to just be content with the way it is. Change is hard and facing the truth, although ultimately freeing, can be daunting. The enemy wants to paralyze you with the fear of change thus pushing the lock closed and chaining you to your current condition.  Paralyzed and unable to move forward you are lured into a state of complacency and over time begin to believe that where you are is exactly where you are suppose to be.   The darkness becomes more and more predominant and the light is slowly snuffed out.

” So they come to you as people do, they sit before you as My people, and they hear your words, but they do not do them; for with their mouth they show much love, but their hearts pursue their own gain.”   Ezekiel 33:31

The wounds in your soul cut deep into your psyche. The damage done by our divorce was more extensive than we wanted to admit or cared to comprehend. Complacency  was a much easier path to take.  We would just focus on the fact that we were back together and falsely believe that we had the power within ourselves to pick up where we had left off and move forward without any need for firming up our foundation.  we would just continue to build on the sinking sand we had originally formed our family structure upon.

“But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand; and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.” – Matthew 7:26

So we as a robotic, falsely content couple continued on our journey.  Taking our kids to church every Sunday morning; praising a God that we were not walking with at all, yet believing that touching base and praising God on Sunday would validate our actions the rest of the week.  Deep down inside we knew that we were not living an abundant life; but an abundant life seemed not only out of reach to us, but also not something we were worthy of having.  We believed that our past mistakes not only defined who we were but made us deserving recipients of the “time out” we had been placed in.  Over time we stopped trying to get  out of “time out” but instead found ways to become as comfortable as possible while there.  The lies of the enemy had penetrated deep within our soul.  Our Sunday morning spiritual connection could not begin to give us the strength required to overcome this internal battle.  So we continued to build our family in the sandpit of deceit.  Proud of all we were accomplishing. Masking the reality of our current condition with fake smiles and a false sense of security.  The mundane routine of life became our driving force.   True transparency and oneness were missing in our marriage the first time around and now the second.  We were two individuals journeying through this life together.   Neither one of us knowing that we were leading ourselves and our family down the wide path of destruction.

” The thief does not come except to steal and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly” John 10:10