“Love doesn’t force itself on others “. 1 Corinthians 13:5
This is one I had to really seek wisdom from God on. What does He mean by doesn’t force itself on others? King James versions says “ does not behave rudely” How do we make sure we are loving this way in our marriages? His answer, follow my example. Jesus never forced himself on others. He did not go around boasting about who He was and the wisdom and power He had. He simply loved people and was willing to serve them. He was even willing to die on the cross leaving the option of accepting the gift of His sacrifice to each and every individual. Now that is a monumental example of not forcing yourself on others.
“Real wisdom, God’s wisdom, begins with a holy life and is characterized by getting along with others. It is gentle and reasonable, overflowing with mercy and blessings, not hot one day and cold the next, not two-faced. You can develop a healthy, robust community that lives right with God and enjoy its results, only if you do the hard work of getting along with each other, treating each other with dignity and honor.” James 3: 17-18 (The Message)
Do you want to be wise in regards to maintaining a healthy marriage? Then the word tells us to be gentle, reasonable, overflowing with mercy and blessings. We are not to force ourselves and our way of thinking on our spouse. Remember Jesus says “follow me” He came to earth to show us how to live out this perfect love. We are to give what we have received; grace and mercy from a patient, gentle God full of blessings. He is never changing; His yes means yes and His no means no. We need to reflect that same love to our spouse. We need to understand that marriage is not a union of two people who then compete and deplete each other. Marriage is a unity that combines two people into “one”.
You want to reap the benefits of a marriage blessed by God? Then follow His example. Love your spouse with all of their flaws. Lets face it, your not flawless. Show grace when your spouse screws up. Lets face it, your not perfect. Listen to your spouse and show compassion and patience. Lets face it, your not the easiest person to get along with either.
You have no power to force your spouse to do anything. Being rude and arrogant will never result in your spouse feeling loved. It will only crack a window for the enemy to slither through and attempt to divide and conquer. Don’t give the devil that kind of foothold with your family!